14 Feb 5 Ways to Make Valentine’s Day Last All Year
Wanna know what Ed and I are doing for Valentine’s Day this year? Absolutely nothing. Not because we’ve been married for over 20 years. Not because we forgot to make reservations. And not because we don’t love each other. We just think Valentine’s Day is stupid. If you know me, this is not new to you. I’ve been saying it for years. Love should not be reserved for one day a year. Love is too precious! It should happen every day. So instead, we celebrate our love and marriage throughout the year. Today, we’re sharing a few of the ways we make sure our marriage is a top priority!
1. Schedule Monthly Date Nights
Ed and I have an extremely packed calendar. Our weeks are filled with work, school, shooting sessions, dance practice, dance competitions, meetings, doctor appointments… I could go on and on. And I know we’re not the only ones. Most couples these days, whether they have kids or not, have a calendar crowded with commitments. And if you’re like us, things have to be on the calendar well in advance. Otherwise, it gets overlooked. So date nights get pushed off, rescheduled, or simply forgotten.
We make a point to put date nights on our shared calendar at least once a month. And we make it something we can’t get out of. Last year, we purchased season tickets to the Orpheum Theatre, and it was the best decision for our marriage! We dress up, make reservations for dinner and cocktails before the show, then go enjoy a night of culture together.
If you can’t commit to a year of shows, choose one or two. Or buy tickets to a couple concerts. Even movie tickets is a great way to spend an evening with your partner. Tickets have a certain date and time you have to be there, and are usually non-refundable. This gives you incentive to make it a priority!
2. Cook Dinner Together
Okay, I know this one doesn’t sound very romantic. But it’s been another game-changer in our marriage! We are huge fans of Hello Fresh meal kits. We spend less time at the grocery store, and the meals are always around 30 minutes to prepare. I chop the veggies, and Ed cooks the meat or fish.
It’s a chance for Ed and I to catch up on each other’s days and make sure we get some time for actual conversation. Some days, it’s the only face to face conversation we get, so I’m so grateful we’ve made this a habit. Who says you have to go out for date night?
3. Write Love Letters or Notes
Don’t roll your eyes. I know, I know. Love letters are so old fashioned and cliché. But they don’t have to be actual letters. Send a quick text to tell your significant other you’re thinking about them. Leave a short card on their desk. Ed is the best card writer I know! I have a whole box full of cards he’s given me over the years, and it means so much!
Helen’s boyfriend will insert little text notes into her calendar and sets a reminder to make sure they pop up and remind her that he loves her. How sweet is that? Just taking the time to write a quick “I love you” can make someone’s day!
4. Schedule a Double Date Night with Friends
I love this one because it’s two for one! You get to spend time with your honey, and you also catch up with friends. We’ve been putting a big focus on relationships of all kinds this year, and that means spending quality, intentional time with friends. As a bonus, Ed and I always seem to pick up marriage tips from other couples who are doing it well!
5. Gift Intentionally
Finally, don’t buy him or her a gift just because it’s Valentine’s Day, their birthday, or an anniversary. My favorite kinds of gifts are “just because.” Ones that are bought on a whim because it “reminded me of you.” You don’t need a number on the calendar to remind you to go buy someone a last-minute gift. Skip the chocolates and flowers. Give them a gift because you know they will love it. Not because they expect it. And do it on a random day!
Above all, don’t forget to tell those you love that you love them every day. Time is fleeting, and you never know what tomorrow will bring. Don’t save your “I love you” for a number on the calendar. Say it today. And every day after.
So that’s it! I hope these gave you some ideas to turn Valentine’s Day into a Valentine’s Year! These are all totally doable, and your honey will thank you for it. Which of these ideas are you going to start incorporating into your relationship? Let us know in the comments!
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